Friday, 4 May 2012

The saddest Friday

One week ago my stepfather for 37 years died, 68 years old. He was the kindest, most helpful man with a great sense of humor. Until five months before his death he was never ill, but strong and fit. Then illness hit and in end he suffered terribly. That was the hardest part, being unable to ease the pain.

The funeral was yesterday. More than 100 people attended, both at church and afterwards. He was a very popular man because of his warm and friendly personality. He was successful in his work life, had a loving family and made many good friends, leaving my mother with a great network of people ready to help her through these hard times. 

Now he will be missed by all of us, but we take comfort in the thought of all the happy moments we shared with him. There's plenty to laugh at as he was the life of the party, in a manner that always included others.

Having lived a happy life is all we can hope for, and 68 years are more than many people get in this world. I just wish the last five months didn't happen! But he's at peace now and we have to move on. He has set a great example for all of us to follow, and that way keep him alive in our hearts. What more can anyone ask for?

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  1. Oh, kaffesoester, I'm sorry to learn of your loss. My condolences to you and your mother.

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  2. So sorry to hear about your family's loss. Take comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering and wants you to remember him at peace.

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    1. Thank you so much Joni, that's exactly what I'll do!

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  3. Dear Tine, I am so sorry to hear about loss! At least it is good to hear that you have so many people around you to share the sorrow and to share all the happy and bright memories with. Warm greetings!

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  4. Thank you very much Anna! Most of the friends live in the countryside where I grew up, but I'm on the phone with people every day, my mother first of all, so we do share. And it does help!

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  5. Heartfelt condolences. I like to think that although he has moved on, he has left some of his light with you. So sorry for your loss.

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    1. Thank you Melanie! I think you're right.

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  6. As I prepare to attend a funeral this week, I have been reflecting on the ephemeral nature of life. I am so sorry to hear your news as well. It's hard for those of us left behind.

    I suspect you'll hear his voice in your dreams and catch a glimpse of him in a shadow or store-window reflection. They never really leave us, I believe.

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    1. Thank you Jean. Funerals are just awful and at the same time necessary. We have to say our goodbyes even though we don't want to. I'm glad that day is over although I'm not over it yet.

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